The Couples Challenge That Actually Helps You Reconnect (Even When It’s Awkward)
You’re not mad at each other.
You’re not even in a crisis.
You’re just disconnected.
And the silence between you feels heavier than it used to.
You're passing each other in the hallway, talking about groceries and nap schedules and work stress, but not much else.
When the kids are finally down, all you want is peace and quiet. Or sleep. Or both.
And sometimes, when you do try to talk, it feels awkward. Like, what do we even say anymore?
If You’re Nodding Your Head, You Might Be Thinking Things Like…
“We love each other… but we’re not really doing anything to feel in love.”
“We don’t even touch each other anymore unless we have to.”
“Sex feels loaded or awkward… like we skipped too many steps to just jump back in.”
“Everything is just logistics. I don’t even know when we last had a meaningful conversation.”
“I miss feeling wanted. Desired. Important. Not just needed.”
You might not be talking about this out loud.
You might be carrying quiet resentment, loneliness, or guilt.
You might be wondering: Can we really come back from this?
The Truth? You’re Not Alone.
And You’re Not Broken.
This is what real-life relationships go through especially after big transitions like having kids, changing jobs, or even deconstructing your faith and the life roles you thought were “just the way it’s supposed to be.”
Resentment builds when one person feels unseen.
Loneliness creeps in even while sharing a home.
Desire fades when there’s no room to want—only to do.
And disconnection becomes the default.
But here’s the thing:
You don’t need a couples therapist to get started.
You don’t need a weekend away or a total relationship overhaul.
You just need a way back to each other.
One small step at a time.
Here’s What Helped Us
There was a time when we sat on the couch after bedtime and just kind of looked at each other awkwardly.
We laughed—but not in a carefree way.
More like, “Uhhh… what do we even talk about?”
Touching each other felt strange.
Initiating sex felt pressure-filled and clumsy.
We didn’t even know what kind of connection we wanted anymore. Just that we missed something.
So we started small.
We tried a few conversation questions to warm things up.
We experimented with ways to reconnect emotionally, physically, even logistically.
We learned what felt good, what didn’t, and—most importantly—we started talking about it without making it weird.
That tiny stretch of effort?
It changed everything.
The night the baby finally went to bed at a decent time and we sat back to back to answer some conversation questions and start the route back to us.
The Right Couples Challenge Doesn’t Add Pressure, It Creates Possibility
I know the phrase “couples challenge” might make you roll your eyes.
Especially if you’re already juggling work, kids, dishes, and trying to get 7 hours of sleep.
But the right kind of challenge doesn’t add one more thing to your to-do list.
It creates intentional space to do the things that actually lighten the load:
✅ Laughing again
✅ Sharing a real moment
✅ Flirting instead of fighting
✅ Rebuilding a sense of us
That’s Exactly Why I Created the 30 Days of Spark Challenge
This isn’t a Pinterest-perfect “30-day marriage challenge.”
It’s a realistic, heartfelt, no-fluff way to reconnect with the person you actually love, but may have drifted from.
It’s made for couples who:
Miss how things used to feel
Want more than just surviving together
Are craving more intimacy physically and emotionally
Need a low-pressure, real-life way to connect
You’ll get:
💬 30 daily prompts for emotional + physical reconnection
📱 Approachable activities you can do in 5–15 minutes
❤️ A mix of fun, flirty, deep, and practical moments
🎧 No awkward scripts or over-the-top “love challenges”
Some of my favorites?
Dance to your wedding song in the kitchen
Send a midday appreciation text
Share a sexual memory or fantasy
Ask: “What would make you feel more seen this week?”
Dream about your future together over takeout
That’s 30 days of connection for the price of a latte.
Zero pressure. All heart.
Download yours here → CLICK ME!
Final Thoughts: This Is Your Sign
If you’ve been feeling the distance but didn’t know where to begin, let this be your sign.
Let this be the thing you try before another month passes feeling like ships in the night.
Before the silence gets heavier.
Before you give up and settle for “fine.”
Connection doesn’t happen by accident.
But it doesn’t have to be complicated either.
Let’s bring the spark back—one moment at a time.
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Get your 30 Days of Spark for $5 → GET THE SPARK BACK!
P.S.
Set a reminder, do one a night after bedtime, and see what shifts.
You might just be 30 days away from a whole new level of intimacy.
